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How to Love Our Children in 3 Simple Ways
Thousands of books are written every year trying to make us better parents. We are inundated with expert advice and we lap it up because we are scared of doing it wrong. We should be doing this and we shouldn’t be doing that. This expert says this but that one disagrees. This is good for kids but that is bad. Judgement after judgement. It’s overwhelming and confusing. Who should we trust? How should we parent?
Emotional Connection Matters
Going back to basics will help us regain some perspective. The most important part of parenting is to create a secure emotional bond between us and our children. That is it.
It might sound too simplistic and yes, experts could argue that there is much more to it, but we are done with overcomplicating what is, in essence, very simple: love.
To create a secure bond, our children need to know that we truly and deeply care about them. They need to know that they are loved beyond measure for who they are. They need to know that they can trust us and that we love them. They need to know that whatever happens we are their source of comfort and peace. Our children need to know that they matter to us. Without any shadow of a doubt.
