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The Real Reason You Don’t Leave Your Unhealthy Relationship
So many of us are stuck in unfulfilling, unhealthy and sometimes even abusive relationships. We know we shouldn’t and yet we stay even though we don’t really understand why. We believe that we must simply love our partner so very much or that we wouldn’t be ok on our own. Neither are correct.
The Cause Lies Within Us
What I have seen over and over again is that our problems in life are only ever a reflection of our internal struggles. When we struggle with endings and when we resist the feelings that arise when things come to an end, we are unwilling to end relationships. Staying then makes logical sense.
We stay because we don’t want to experience an ending. We don’t want to have those feelings so we avoid taking the necessary actions that would give rise to the feelings we are unwilling to feel. But it is in trying to avoid one set of unwanted feelings that we create a completely different set of uncomfortable feelings. Our strategy is flawed.
Endings Aren’t Failures
There is nothing wrong with endings. All things end at one point or another. Our lives end. Just because something ends doesn’t mean that we have failed. It is absolutely fine to have different experiences in life and to let them go when we have…
