Mar 10The Pain of Inhibition: When Speaking Your Truth Feels Life-Threatening“A proper grown-up communicates clearly and assertively.” By that definition, I wouldn’t have classed as a proper grown-up for most of my life. There was a time I couldn’t even ask someone for a glass of water. I know that might seem crazy to some people and for a long…4 min read4 min read
Mar 6Want What’s Real, Not PerfectWe are taught to seek perfection. Because that’s when you’re allowed to feel worthy again. That’s when you’re someone in the eyes of someone else. Apparently so. And no matter how you apply that in your life — whether you seek wealth and status or love and meaning — at…Self Improvement2 min readSelf Improvement2 min read
Feb 23Do You Shame Yourself Into Getting Things Done?Like so many of my clients, I used to shame myself to motivate myself to become a better person or to get more things done. …Mental Health3 min readMental Health3 min read
Feb 15Why Your Partner Might Not Want To Have Sex With YouI see many couples in my psychotherapy practice who struggle to maintain an active sex life. “She just doesn’t want to have sex with me anymore. And when we do it looks like she’s going through the motions.” That’s one of the most common complaints clients bring to me. …Relationships5 min readRelationships5 min read
Jan 27Are You Hiding Your Gifts?Imagine you are an artist who creates the most beautiful paintings. You are deeply creative and often feel inspired and so you create masterpiece after masterpiece. You have created so many masterpieces that you have a huge underground vault where you store all of your masterpieces. It’s a spectacular space…Creativity3 min readCreativity3 min read
Oct 27, 2022Why Codependent Relationships Don’t WorkI don’t know about you but I enter a relationship because I like to experience love. I love to love, I love to be loved and I love to feel loved. So I guess it would be fair to say that my main motivation is love. I would have said…Relationships3 min readRelationships3 min read
Oct 24, 2022The Choice You Have To Make After An InfidelityI have worked with a lot of clients and couples who have experienced infidelity within their romantic relationship. To say that it’s a soul-destroying experience for at least one partner is an understatement. But what they all have in common is this: understanding how the person they loved and trusted…Relationships2 min readRelationships2 min read
Oct 19, 2022Are You Progressing In Your Healing Journey?One of the most common questions I am asked by my clients — especially during assessment sessions — is how far along they are in their recovery or healing journey. “I have been reading everything there is. I have even taken some courses and I know a lot. But I…Healing4 min readHealing4 min read
Oct 17, 20227 Common Reasons Our Relationships FailRelationships don’t just work by themselves. They need to be maintained and nurtured so they can continue to provide a healthy environment for both partners. Believing otherwise sets us up for great disappointment. There are many ways in which we — sometimes unknowingly — damage our relationships but here are…Relationships3 min readRelationships3 min read
Oct 10, 2022Why Not Setting Boundaries Actually Damages Your RelationshipA lot of my clients come to me because they are experiencing stress in their relationships. Maybe their father-in-law criticises how they parent. Maybe their best friend keeps asking to borrow money but never pays it back. Maybe their work colleague slacks off and they have to work unpaid overtime. …Relationships3 min readRelationships3 min read