We are taught to seek perfection. Because that’s when you’re allowed to feel worthy again. That’s when you’re someone in the eyes of someone else. Apparently so. And no matter how you apply that in your life — whether you seek wealth and status or love and meaning — at…

Like so many of my clients, I used to shame myself to motivate myself to become a better person or to get more things done. …

I see many couples in my psychotherapy practice who struggle to maintain an active sex life. “She just doesn’t want to have sex with me anymore. And when we do it looks like she’s going through the motions.” That’s one of the most common complaints clients bring to me. …

Imagine you are an artist who creates the most beautiful paintings. You are deeply creative and often feel inspired and so you create masterpiece after masterpiece. You have created so many masterpieces that you have a huge underground vault where you store all of your masterpieces. It’s a spectacular space…

I don’t know about you but I enter a relationship because I like to experience love. I love to love, I love to be loved and I love to feel loved. So I guess it would be fair to say that my main motivation is love. I would have said…

I have worked with a lot of clients and couples who have experienced infidelity within their romantic relationship. To say that it’s a soul-destroying experience for at least one partner is an understatement. But what they all have in common is this: understanding how the person they loved and trusted…

One of the most common questions I am asked by my clients — especially during assessment sessions — is how far along they are in their recovery or healing journey. “I have been reading everything there is. I have even taken some courses and I know a lot. But I…

Relationships don’t just work by themselves. They need to be maintained and nurtured so they can continue to provide a healthy environment for both partners. Believing otherwise sets us up for great disappointment. There are many ways in which we — sometimes unknowingly — damage our relationships but here are…

A lot of my clients come to me because they are experiencing stress in their relationships. Maybe their father-in-law criticises how they parent. Maybe their best friend keeps asking to borrow money but never pays it back. Maybe their work colleague slacks off and they have to work unpaid overtime. …